Death of a Son

The loss of a child has to be one of the most traumatic experiences in existence. I’ve always thought it to be like beginning a good book and, having read the first fascinating chapter, having it snatched away and slammed shut, never again to be opened. The frustration, the anger and the sadness knows no bounds.

When a community, a church or a family loses a child, the response often begins with numbness but can escalate quickly to disbelief and panic. How could a loving God allow this to happen? Why did such promise and potential have to meet such an unexpected, unnecessary demise? Before we go too far down that road, perhaps we should consider another perspective.

God knows what it is like to lose a Son. And, whereas our loss is grieved by all who knew the child, and inundated with well-wishers and expressions of support, precious few stood by the cross while a majority mocked. God watched, even while truth-haters and tradition-lovers spit on His Son. You see, is not as though God does not know your pain.

What we do know is that we do not know what God knows. He sees a picture so much more clearly and completely (Hebrews 4:13). He sees the end as if it were the beginning (Isaiah 46:10). And, all things work together for good to those who love the Lord (Romans 8:28). So, when His Son died, whereas few if any knew the reason, God knew.

It was three days before Jesus’ chosen few would begin to understand. It sometimes takes people the better part of their life to understand. Yet, knowing this, God still gave His Son! He knew that many would struggle to understand and many more would just give up; and God still gave His Son.

We rarely (if ever) know why death comes to the young, why suffering afflicts the undeserving or why evil seems to triumph but this we know by faith: God loves you, He will never give you more than you can bear and He has prepared mansions for His own. Therefore, when we don’t have the answers, trust in God because He does.

Jeff Sweeten